Wednesday, August 24, 2011

The Beauty of Bromance

There is nothing quite like a good old-fashioned bromance. Guys often don't express their feelings to each other because it isn't masculine or accepted in society. Screw that. While romantic love with the opposite sex is full of ups and downs and usually ends up in heartbreak, your relationship with your "bro's" last a lifetime.

My best friend in the world Jim( Jimbutta) Gallant came into town last weekend from Medfa, MA. We had a blast playing beer pong, jamming out to 2pac, Tom Petty, and Billy Joel, and reminiscing about the college days. I miss him already. In college, we did everything together. Drinking beer, listening to Roxanne before a night out at Charlie's, talking about the girls or lack of girls in our life. It was bromance to the extreme.

I have the same thing with Pogo and Dan now (Milano is coming close into that category). I can shoot the shit with them and say anything. You don't worry about being late to something, or some petty BS fight you get into. You work things out as dudes.
Why don't guys express emotions to each other? Why can't we do the same things as girls (without the physical stuff because that would just be weird). Why can't we be that open? Who started this whole societal acceptance thing and why did it happen? I can tell you right now that if you get any guy drunk enough they will talk about how much they appreciate and love another person as their friend. They will do it because they mean it. Fortunately for me I was brought up with a family that encouraged me to be honest and open about everything.
My favorite bromance activity is kayaking on the Potomac. Pogo and I have had some of the best discussions ever out there on the water in the red canoe. Another favorite is watching Patriots games and eating Wings with Jimbo. We would sit for hours not saying a word and it would be perfectly awesome. Also, discussing girls and life with Dan. That's my boo! Milano(Tuna) and I have pretty much just met but I can tell there is a potential bromance down the road. At any rate the beautiful Filipino girl at Adams Corner will keep us coming back.

Bromance's last a lifetime. The best friendships are with people you don't see for years at a time but when you see them again it is like nothing changed. They are forever. On the other hand 50% or more romance's do not. I am a hopeless romantic. I believe in love more than anyone else I know probably. At the same time if I don't ever find that love at least I know I will have guy friends that will always be there for me. Wing men for life.


  1. One of my roommates and I had a similar discussion the other night. It's rare to read something like this or hear a guy say it, but it's true. The reason, I believe, that this is so is because of our instincts and the evolution of our culture.

    Men throughout history sought to attract mates by coming off as the "alpha male" as they say. This is primarily why we want to be star athletes, rock stars, the hit at the party, and the winner of any given contest.

    In our culture, when you put the "homosexual" or "feminine" label on a guy, there's a contest going on there, and you won it. If he's gay, you are the "alpha male". Even if there is no female around, we're bred to avoid these labels at all costs because our subconscious is telling us that we'll never get laid now, and that directly contradicts or instinct to reproduce.

    We avoid showing more than a certain level of compassion towards men, especially when we can be overheard (or read) by other men, because it leaves us wide-open for the "you're gay" label, and as I explained, we've developed to avoid that at all costs. I'm comfortable saying what I want to other men at this point after having thought it all through, and I admire anyone else, like yourself, who is the same way. Actually, being honest and intelligent has got me way more women than trying to be the tough guy ever did. Remember, if you can out-smart that guy calling you gay, YOU become the "alpha male."

  2. Haha nice post buddy. Love and miss you :)